Wednesday, March 5, 2014

So What Wednesday

So what if.............

I completely fell off the diet wagon this weekend. My brother-in-law got married and I had no choice to eat all the sweets and carbs I could fit into my mouth. I refuse to weigh again until Friday.

I have determined it is easier to let the little one sleep with me rather than upstairs in her bed. It gives me a reason to go to bed at 8:00 and she actually wakes up in a good mood. Not to mention that I don't have to go up the stairs 45 times when she yells "Mommy!"

Thanks to the hubs, I am hooked on the Frank Sinatra station on Pandora. It plays all day in my classroom and my students actually said it makes them happy.

I find the following video completely hilarious. Thanks to a good friend for sharing. It started my morning off with a laugh, and I hope it does yours.



Happy Worst Day of the week!!

~Tiffany~

Tuesday, March 4, 2014

12 Best Lupus Blogs

I know there are so many people out there with this horrible disease that are just looking for support. They are grabbing at all the straws they can to help them through this horrible, incurable disease. Well, I was scrolling through Facebook yesterday and I found a link to the 12 Best lupus blogs. Some of these I read, others I have never heard of. I am still going through them to see which ones will be of benefit to me and I encourage you to do the same. 

Have a great day!!

~Tiffany~

Wednesday, February 26, 2014

So what Wednesday

This so what Wednesday is a little bit different that the others. I am trying to be positive because I have a heck a week still left ahead of me.

So what if.....

~One of the many blessings in my life is lupus. Many will look at that statement and cringe. But the reality of the fact is that lupus has taught me to stay strong, Be thankful, love more and complain less. Yes it's not easy to see that but it's sure better than focusing on the pain it brings me.  
~Lupus In Color~


Wednesday, February 19, 2014

So What Wednesday

Womp Womp.......It's Wednesday again. The worst day of the week!!!!! Today, it may not be all that bad though. Em J asked if I wanted to go out of town with her today after work, and I think I might just go if my parents can watch the princess. We shall see.

On with the show...

SO WHAT IF.......


  • I am completely out of body wash and I had to use the princess's body wash this morning. It all works the same, right?? I see a stop by Target in my near future if I get to go with Em J. 
  • Getting to go to Target is pure JOY for me. All we have is a Wal-Mart where people steal your phones out of your purse that is buckled in like a baby in the child seat.
  • I went a little ghetto-red neck on some folks at the above mentioned Wal-Mart because they wouldn't pull their cameras to see if they could see who stole my phone.
  • I have no idea what I'm doing today in my class. I mean, I have a general idea, but not for sure. That's what 1st period is for right? To get your ducks in a row for the rest of the day. I think so.
  • I begged the hubs to let me cancel my doctor's appointment on Friday, so I would have an extra day to take off if we get to go to the beach Spring Break......he said no.......womp, womp
  • I bought my own birthday cake last week. I guess that is what happens when you get old.
  • I was a sucker for the Garcinia pills that Dr Oz was promoting and ended being charged a heck of a lot of money because my "trial" was up.  Liars!!!
  • While we out for 3 days for snow, I didn't change out of pjs. I HATE the snow!!! Thank goodness I live in the South where we don't snow very often.

There you have is folks...Have a great Hump Day!!!!

~Tiffany~

Monday, February 17, 2014

My Heart

There are many people that I come in contact with on a daily basis that are near and dear to my heart. I don't tell them enough how special they are to me, and that is something I need to work on. What better way to begin than with a "thank you" from my heart.

Thank you for believing me when I began not feeling good in the summer of 2003. Thank you for holding my head as I threw up time after time because I was so scared because I didn't know what was wrong. Thank you for telling me I was beautiful as I dropped down to less than 100 pounds because lupus was eating my body away. I was in college, living in the dorm, and let's just be real. You don't have much privacy while living in a dorm. I only had one person to make a negative comment about how bad I was looking, and I will never forget that as long as I live. 

Thank you to my uncle, who is a physician, that targeted exactly what was wrong with me within two visits. Thank you to my parents who made me come home and get the treatment I needed, even though I was in my last year of college.

 Thank you to my husband (fiancĂ© at the time) for being my best friend and biggest fan. It would have been so easy to walk away and say "I can't handle this." He instead, put on his big boy underwear and took care of me every step of the way. He gave me my meds, took me to my doctor appointments, and he still does. He was in his last semester of nursing school, working the night shift as an LPN, and driving from where he lived to where I was going to college, back to my parents house, and to Birmingham with me. There were many time when I didn't feel like driving back to school and he would take me all the way there and go back home at midnight. I obviously could go on and on thanking him for what all he does. Let's just say God knows who we need when we need them most. 

Thank you to the fetal specialist that took Josh and I in after we tried for a year to have a child. We walked into her office to the sight of a file about 5 inches thick with big red letters stamped on it "High Risk" only to find out that it was mine. Thank you to her and her advice of, " I can't tell you you can't, and I can't tell you you shouldn't, but I can tell you the risks."

Thank you to my very dear friend, who may be cray cray to some, but an angel to me. She is my general practitioner that took my case after my uncle retired. She has given advice beyond measure. She tells me the things that I don't want to hear like, "Go home, shave your legs, because I'm putting you in the hospital. You are too sick to fight this on your own........again." She also saved me many sleepless nights, by suggesting I go see a therapist for pain management. There I said it. Yes, I see a therapist. Don't hate, you probably need to yourself :)

Through the fate of our jobs, I want to say thank you to my very best friend, who always makes me laugh, cooks me homemade chicken fingers for my birthday, and checks on me everyday!!!! With the hubs being in school, she keeps me going everyday. She is usually my first text in the morning and the last one before I go to sleep. She is constantly on the go and inspires me to get up and do something. 

It is my hope that this Valentine's Day you take a minute to thank those who love you and the lifelong, uncureable disease that comes along with you. 

Thank you for reading this blog and helping me keep my head above water. Happy Valentine's Wishes to you and those you are thankful for.

~Tiffany~




The people that know me best, know the way to my heart is through my nose. They won me over this Valentine's Day!!!




The hubs and I on Valentine's Day and his birthday. I can't think of a better Valentine's baby!!




The princess and the wild child. We spent Sunday afternoon with my sister and her precious family!!! 

Wednesday, February 5, 2014

So What Wednesday

It's that time again....Time for So What Wednesday!!!

So what if.....

I completely and totally HATE Wednesdays!!!! No particular reason. I just HATE them!!!

I have a meeting in 45 minutes and my iPad is dead as a doornail. I guess I will be THAT person in the meeting that is always asking the admin to repeat what he just said so I can write it down.

I have the crud and I am hacking up nasty stuff every 5 minutes.

I have not had a voice since Friday and I have done all my teaching by having the kids read power points and taking notes. Sorry, but at least I am here.

I called to reschedule my Rheumy appt for when I had to miss it due to weather. The next available they had was the end of April and I went ape crazy on them!!! I can't help it if Birmingham iced over on the day I was suppose to go. They even had the nerve to ask of something was wrong with me. Idiot!!!!!

I am OBSESSED with Michael Kors!!! I am selling all my Coach purses to buy more Michael Kors stuff. I am currently working on my Spring/Summer collection. BTW if you are on Poshmark check out my closet...tiffanyadonnan :)

I have a Pinterest outfit on today and I forgot to take a picture of it...cue selfie in the bathroom..


There you have it!!! So what Wednesday!!!! Let's get this day going and over with!!!

~Tiffany~

Tuesday, February 4, 2014

Inspiration, Pinspiration

Inspiration, Pinspiration, I need any kind of spiration I can get get today....except for perspiration...I can do without that.....I crack myself up!!! I am sick and have been since Friday with a head cold and congestion. The hubs got it after me, and is already over it. Ahh.....the joys and there is absolutely nothing they can do about cough and congestion. So, if any of you know of any OTC miracles or home remedies, hit me up!!!

This past weekend, the princess and I went to visit the hubs at school. I have kept hearing about this awesome girl, Kaley, at Carolina Avenue Salon, that is just an absolute blessing to the hair color world. I had root rot, so I thought I would give her a try. I looked and looked for pictures on pinterest to see if I could find any thing I liked. I know what I wanted in my head, but couldn't find a picture of it. I quietly (because I had no voice) explained to her what I wanted, which was a gradual ombre without a definite line, but not too at the bottom. She nailed it!!!!! You can't really see the ombre from the front, but I love the color and the highlights around my face.

This is the before and after....what do y'all think....blonder or darker???

Eventually, hopefully by the summer, I will be able to get to this.


When you suffer as much as we lupies do, you have to find something that makes you happy and helps you to feel good. Going to get my hair done has always helped my spirits and helped me to feel better about myself. I hope you have that one thing that you can always go to to make yourself feel better!!!

I hope you have a great Tuesday, and I will be back tomorrow for So What Wednesday!!!

~Tiffany~

Thursday, January 30, 2014

Lupus and Lies by: Iris Carden

Lupus and Lies

Your friend has lupus.  You can see she's in pain and you say, "Are you OK?"

She says: "I'm fine."

Why is she lying to you? Why is she minimizing what's going on? Doesn't she trust you?

I know why I do it.  I asked on social media, and found that a number of other lupies have similar reasons to mine.

We do it for ourselves, because:

  • we don't want to always be talking about lupus.  It never goes away, but we still want to try to stop it from taking over our entire lives.
  • sometimes it actually feels worse when we acknowledge it. 
  • we just want to do and say "normal" things.
  • because if we start to talk about it maybe we'll just never stop and we'll be talking about pain, fatigue, memory loss, confusion, rashes, fear, drugs and all the rest of it forever.
  • because sometimes what's happening is something that we really can only talk about with someone who's been there (which is where lupus support groups are amazing.)
  • because sometimes we feel like being with someone and not talking about lupus is the only time we wake up from the nightmare that we're living in.
  • as one lovely lupie said in answer to my question; "I am afraid I will becomelupus."
  • because if we admit we're in agony, you will say "well, let's go home", when what we really desperately want and need to do is stay out and have a little bit of fun (and yes, we know we'll pay for it later, sometimes it's worth the cost.)
  • we don't want to draw attention to ourselves.
  • we don't want to be the person who's always complaining.

We do it for you because:
  • we feel like all we ever do is complain to you. Sometimes, we want to be there for you, not have our friends and family feel like they always have to be our carers.
  • it's bad enough that we feel bad, making you feel bad about it won't make it any better.
  • because we're just so sick and tired of lupus that we're sure you must be too.

We do it to avoid (I have to stress, that I don't have much of this at all - very few people have judged me badly simply for being sick, I'm working on other lupies' experiences here):

  • being labelled as a hypochondriac, or told we're faking it.
  • being rejected.
  • being condemned by people who just can't understand how we can be well one day and horribly sick the next.
  • losing friends and being abandoned.
  • getting stuck in the "but it's not like it's anything serious like cancer, get over it" conversations that leave us trying to explain/justify having a chronic, life-threatening, incurable disease.
  • unsolicited, uninformed, and incredibly unhelpful advice.
  • people not believing in the symptoms they can't see.

When we say: "I'm fine" or "I'm OK", it usually means something like "I don't want how I'm feeling to be an issue right now, let's talk about something else." I know it sounds like we're talking in code... but really all language is a kind of code anyway.

I don't know about other lupies' family and friends, but mine have learned to decipher much of my code anyway.  For example, just about everyone I spend time with knows that when I say "Let's have a coffee", it actually means, "I'm exhausted. Coffee is an excuse to sit down while I recover, without admitting there's anything wrong."


Disclaimer: This post was written by Iris on the Blog "Sometimes it is Lupus"
http://www.sometimesitislupus.com

Tuesday, January 28, 2014

Pinspiration

Well, I know I keep saying this, but I am back......again!!!! I have been so busy with this and that, that I haven't had much time to sit, much less think about what I am going to blog about.

So, today I will begin with this......the windchill here is 3. No, I don't live up North, I live in the South where it is suppose to be WARM!!!!!! This is by far the coldest winter that I can remember, and with the cold comes numbness......everywhere. My fingers and hands stay cold and numb a good part of the day, if not all day. I would love to wear fleece leggings, oversized monogrammed sweatshirts, and Ugg boots every single day, but I simply cannot do that. It is not against dress code or anything, I just don't feel put together. Call me crazy, but that is the way I am built. I love my clothes, I love dressing up, and quite frankly, it make me feel better. It gives me a sense a pride and well being. Sometimes, it gets my mind off of how bad I am hurting, or how cold it is. So, get up, get dressed, and see if it doesn't make you feel better.  With that being said, here is my Pinspiration of the day.

Stay warm lupies!!!

~Tiffany~

OOTD:
Top and Jacket: Forever 21
Pants: Belk
Shoes: Belk Clearance Room

Tuesday, January 14, 2014

Pinspiration

As you all know, the hubs is in school full time, living in another state, and I am the only income of the family. With that being said, my clothing budget no longer exist. So, I have started a new hobby, that I like to call Pinspiration.

What I do is I find outfits I like on Pinterest, and I try to re-create them with the clothes I already have. I am going to try to do this every Tuesday. I love it!! They may not be the exact same, but they will be similar. I think it is so fun, and it makes me really happy to have a hobby that I can do, from home, that doesn't cost me any money.

So, what are your favorite hobbies that you do that helps to keep your mind off things? I'd love to know!!!

Have a happy Tuesday!!

~Tiffany~



Jacket: Bought of Poshmark
Shirt: Bought of Poshmark
Jeans and Boots: Belk
The only thing I wish I would have done different is put my Two Broke Girls Pearl necklace with it!!


(Pardon the angle of the pic...the princess took this picture this morning)

Monday, January 13, 2014

Weekend Update

Weekend Update = Womp Womp!!!!!!! While Friday was a very exciting day filled with meetings and basketball games, Saturday was the bomb.com!!!!

Saturday I did nothing but sleep. I mean when I say sleep, I mean sleep A LOT!!!!!!!!! My gracious and wonderful hubs let me sleep in until 12:00 noon!!!!! Yes, noon!!!!!! He even brought me lunch in bed and that is where I stayed until I fell back asleep at about 3:00 and slept until 5:00. My dad cooked omlets for everyone and after we all ate and watched a little football, it was back to bed for me at 8:30.

Sunday, we got up and went to church. It was a wonderful morning filled with encouragement. The hubs and I have started going to a new class and it is so encouraging!!!! I hope to share a little of what we are doing in there soon. After church, we went for some Mexican and then it was back home, and you guessed it.....a Sunday afternoon nap.

With all that being said, I know you are probably thinking how in the world does someone sleep that much?!?!?! I sleep that much because every day of every week is such a stuggle for someone with lupus. I do not stay up crazy hours of the night. As a matter of fact, I tend to get 8 plus hours of sleep a night!!! That is how much my body needs to rest after a 5 day work week. I do not work in the maufacturing line of work, nor do I do streneous activities during the week. I am a school teacher that gets to go home at 3:15 most days and rest until 5:30 or 6:00. Lupus literally sucks the life out of me and I don't know what I would do if I wasn't able to have my rest time. If I don't get a rest day during the weekend, you can pretty much bet your bottom dollar that I will miss a day of work because I am just too sick to function and in so much pain that it is hard for me to move. My weekends are precious and so is my time with my students. So, in order for it all to work, I have to stop, rest, and let my body recouperate from the week and charge up for the next one.

I hope you all have a great Monday and a great week!!!!! 

~Tiffany~

Here is a little something that will hopefully make you smile. This is my neice and her art work from the weekend. I was so impressed that she did not get anything on that pretty white dress!!! 



Thursday, January 9, 2014

Food Diary

I have got to, got to, got to make myself do it!!!! I have got to start keeping a food diary. I love blogging, but I never have been the greatest at keeping a journal.  Em J gave me a calendar a while ago that I forgot I had and it is perfect for my food journaling.

I have started a low key exercise regimen, thanks to the hubs, and I have begun weighing myself every morning. I know that you are not suppose to do that, but I have to see instant results. I have the I want it and I want it now attitude. If I can even see an ounce drop, I will be motivated to keep going. I know there are going to be days that I will not see any change or my weight may even go up. That's ok with me as long as I know I didn't blow the day and eat crap.

So, today is the day!!! I weighed this morning, I am going to write that at the top along with the date and write down everything I eat. I hoping to see where the problem is and fix it!!!

Have a great day Lupies!!!

~Tiffany~

Wednesday, January 8, 2014

So WHAT Wednesday

It's Back Jack.........So What Wednesdays!!!!!


Let's get started...shall we???

So What if:

When I was in the hospital and the nurse told me she was going to give me a shot in my belly, I started crying and flapping like a fish out of water. Give me a break folks....It was 2 a.m. and I was thinking I was having a stroke...a little freaked out is an understatement.

I'm currently sitting in a McDonalds writing this because my child is in ballet. They don't even have wifi up in that studio joint...SMH

I sleep with 3 blankets, a heating pad, and a dog to keep warm......it's flippin frigid here!!!!

I was not happy when school was not delayed yesterday. I think it is completely ridiculous that our kids had to stand and wait for the bus in negative temperatures. Not our highest authorities greatest moment.

I am flat broke. Christmas and being paid on the 20th with not another check until the end of the month kills me every year. Every penny I have in the bank is spoken for. They carry the names the princess and bills.

I HATE exercising. I mean, I loathe it!!!!! I know it is something that I should do and something that I need to do to lose the weight, but I would rather get a shot than exercise (and that is saying A LOT). 


There you have it folks...my what if's for the week. What are yours? I hope you have a happy worst day of the week.

Later Lupies

Tiffany



OOTD (Sorry, but I had to take this at work..Running late...It's life)
Sweater: H & M
Belt: Fossil
Jeggings: Belk
Boots: Belk

Tuesday, January 7, 2014

What it's like to move back in with your parents…….

Since…..whoa wait a minute…..the TV is on and there is a commercial on for a WaxVac for you to clean your ears…I have seen it all!!!!!! Anywho, back to what I was talking about, if you have been following my blog, you know that the hubs has moved off to finish his education and become a DNAP (Dr of Nurse Anesthesia Practice). Since, October, I have lived in my parents basement.

Y'all I tried…..I tried my hardest to do the single mother thing. Keep up with my house, run the princess everywhere for gymnastics and ballet, get us both fed, but I failed. I failed big time. When I found out they were selling my house, I sobbed like a baby, crying what am I going to do, and where am I going to go?!?!?!?! Little did I know, moving in with my parents would be a blessing in disguise. They have been my saving grace while the hubs has been in school. They help me give her baths, Daddy fixes us supper, and they help get the princess dressed in the morning. I say all this to tell you that just when you think you can't do it anymore, or you are at the end of the tunnel with no light, there will always be a silver lining. It may not seem like it at the time, but there is always something good that can come from everything.

Hang in there, say your prayers, and let the good Lord move in you.

Have a fantabulous Tuesday!!!
~Tiffany~
OOTD
Shirt: Forever 21
Vest: Gap
Scarf: Bought off Poshmark
Boots: Target
Headband: Etsy

Monday, January 6, 2014

Waaaaaaarrrrrrrr Eagle!!!!!

Good Monday Morning lupies!!!!! We were delayed two hours today and I feel great!!! A 1,000,000% better than this time last Monday……and that's where I'll begin.

I was hospitalized last Monday-Thursday for what was believed to be a stroke. I was in Jackson, TN (where the hubs goes to school) and I got a sever headache and had paralysis of my right side. I have done this before and the symptoms always went away, but this time they didn't. So, here we go…to the ER. Well, the first ER I went to didn't have a neurologist, but another hospital in town did. They load me up in the ambulance and transfer me to another hospital. This was about 12:00 a.m.

Long story short, I didn't get a room until 5:15 a.m. and they had me down for an MRI by 6:10 a.m. I had two MRIs and an EEG. They finally determined that I had an atypical basilar migraine. Side note: I have never had a headache in my life!!!!

I got to come home Thursday and went to my doctor in Birmingham Friday. I was signing in, and noticed a sign that said that beginning in February, that they will no longer accept my insurance. So…….I have to find a new doctor. Happy happy, joy joy!!!!

Happy Monday Lupies and War Eagle!!!!!
~Tiffany~


OOTD (It's War Eagle Day)
Sweatshirt: H & M
Leggings: Local Boutique $8 (the are fleece lined and sooooo comfy)
Scarf: Gift from Em J
Boots: Uggs




Lizzie and I say "Waaaaaaaarrrrrrrrr Eagle!!!!!